fem

Opposite of butch

Fem describes qualities culturally associated with femininity—soft features, graceful mannerisms, traditionally feminine dress or presentation.

The term is common in LGBTQ+ communities as a self-descriptor or preference: I'm pretty fem, looking for a fem guy.

Fem contrasts with masc (masculine) and carries no negative connotation in these contexts.

Outside queer spaces, fem functions as a casual shortening of feminine.

culture

goddess

Female sacred being

suffragette · empowerment · herstory · womanism · divine · priestess · crone · maiden · mother · muse

identity

womanhood

Adult female state

nonbinary · transgender · genderfluid · demigirl · queer · sissy · tomboy · butch · lipstick · presentation

aesthetic

glamour

Fascinating, elegant attractiveness

  • elegantGracefully refined, tasteful
  • chicTasteful, current flair
  • coutureCustom high-fashion design

vogue · sophisticated · dainty · delicate · graceful · soft · floral · pastel · lace · ruffles

biology

estrogen

Female reproductive hormone

menstruation · fertility · uterus · cervix · mammary · lactation · pregnancy · conception · childbirth · menopause

Opposites
gender presentation/expression

femmasc

Male gender shorthand

butch · masculine · stud · boi · soft butch

Phrases
Family

female, feminine, femininity, femme, effeminate, femur, unfeminine, femaleness, feminize

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Used worldwide · Abstract · Everyday, not technical · Rated PG