how it is
The actual situation
The way things actually are, especially when reality is difficult or unpleasant.
The phrase acknowledges circumstances that can't be changed: I didn't make the rules—that's just how it is.
Often carries resignation or acceptance, sometimes used to shut down further discussion: You don't have to like it, but that's how it is.
- actualityState of existing fact
- beingExisting as something
- factVerifiable piece of information
- tell it like it isSpeak with complete candor
- real talkFrank, unfiltered discussion
now · current · realization · recognition · existence · state of affairs · present · lay of the land · way of the world · straight up · truth · plain and simple · no sugarcoating · reality check · inevitability · status quo · acceptance · hard to swallow
how it iswishful thinking
Belief shaped by desire
fantasy · pipe dream · utopia · rose-colored glasses · daydream
how it isdenial
Refusal to accept reality
delusion · self-deception · make-believe · pretense · illusion