throwing up one's hands

Gesture of exasperation

Throwing up one's hands is a gesture of surrender, exasperation, or helpless frustration—lifting both hands upward to signal you've given up trying.

The phrase describes both the literal motion and the attitude behind it: After three hours of debugging, she threw up her hands and went home.

Someone who throws up their hands has decided a situation is beyond their control or not worth further effort.

Related

waving white flag · defeatism · deadlock · abdication · frustration · acquiescence · walking away · yielding · impasse · helplessness · capitulation · facepalming · failure · eye-rolling · despair · hopelessness · stalemate · gridlock

Opposites
persistence and effort

throwing up one's handspersevering

Maintaining effort despite difficulty

pressing on · soldiering on · sticking with it · doubling down · hanging in there

emotional response to difficulty

throwing up one's handskeeping one's cool

Staying composed when provoked

taking it in stride · rolling with the punches · keeping the faith · digging in one's heels · keeping calm

agency and control

throwing up one's handstaking charge

Assuming leadership or control

taking the reins · taking matters into one's own hands · stepping up · taking the bull by the horns · rising to the occasion

Family

throw, throwing, throws, thrown, thrower, hands, handed, handing, handful

Familiarity
Top 100,000
Profile
Known to kids · Used worldwide · Timeless · Concrete · Negative · Everyday, not technical · Rated G