grievance collecting
Accumulating perceived wrongs
Grievance collecting is the habit of accumulating and dwelling on perceived slights, injustices, or offenses rather than letting them go.
The grievance collector keeps mental records of every wrong done to them, often rehearsing old injuries to fuel ongoing resentment: He's been grievance collecting for years—still bitter about a slight from 2003.
The term suggests this behavior serves a psychological purpose, providing justification for hostility or victimhood.
- scorekeepingRecording points during competition
- resentmentPersistent bitter displeasure
- ruminationProlonged, repetitive thinking
- social alienationDisconnection from society, self
- grudgesPersistent ill will
keeping score · nursing wounds · interpersonal conflict · self-pity · pity party · avoidance · group polarization · indignation · victimhood · passive-aggressiveness · silent treatment · cognitive bias · toxic positivity · stonewalling · bitterness · chip on shoulder · passive resistance · martyrdom
grievance collectingforgiving
Inclined to pardon offenses
forgiveness · letting go · forgive and forget · forgiving and forgetting · pardoning
grievance collectingmagnanimity
Generous, noble spirit
open-heartedness · goodwill · benevolence · good faith · trust
grievance collectinggratitude practice
Routine of acknowledging blessings
counting blessings · appreciation · thankfulness · gratitude · radical acceptance
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