wear sackcloth and ashes

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To wear sackcloth and ashes is to display extreme grief, remorse, or penitence.

The phrase comes from the ancient Near Eastern practice of wearing rough cloth and sprinkling ashes on oneself as signs of mourning or repentance.

Today it's usually figurative and often ironic, suggesting excessive or performative contrition: I made one mistake—do I have to wear sackcloth and ashes forever?

Related

contrition · remorse · humble · burlap · hessian · atonement · Job · Old Testament · lamentation · shame · beat one's breast · symbolic gestures · mourning rituals · guilt · regret · humility · beg forgiveness · grief

Opposites
emotional display of remorse vs. celebration

wear sackcloth and ashescelebrate

Honor through festivity

rejoice · gloat · exult · revel · make merry

penitence vs. unapologetic behavior

wear sackcloth and ashesdouble down

Strengthen one's stance

thumb one's nose · hold one's head high · stand one's ground · dig in one's heels

ostentatious suffering vs. silent dignity

wear sackcloth and ashessuffer in silence

Endure pain without complaint

keep a stiff upper lip · grin and bear it · hold one's head high

Family

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Used worldwide · Timeless · Concrete · Negative · Everyday, not technical · Rated G