hold against
Use to blame
To hold something against someone is to let a past action or quality diminish your opinion of them: I know he apologized, but I still hold it against him.
The phrase usually appears in negations or questions: Don't hold it against me, Can you really hold that against her?
What's held against someone becomes a persistent mark on their record, coloring how you view them going forward.
- accuseClaim someone did wrong
- blameAssign responsibility for wrongdoing
- rancorLasting bitter resentment
- cling toHold fast to
- criticizeJudge unfavorably, vocally
harbor · grudge · resentment · bitter feelings · bear a grudge · forgiveness · let it go · water under the bridge · animosity · bad blood · suspect · reconciliation · bitterness · charge · culpability · accusation · accountability · judgment