bite one's tongue

Hold back words

To bite one's tongue is to hold back from saying something, usually with effort.

The image is of physically restraining speech: I wanted to tell him he was wrong, but I bit my tongue.

Often implies suppressing criticism, anger, or an unwelcome truth to keep the peace or avoid consequences.

Related

self-control · suppress · zip it · diplomacy · politeness · silence · impulse control · count to ten · think before speaking · self-censorship · hush up · discretion · tact · grit one's teeth · patience · prudence · hold one's peace · swallow one's words

Opposites
verbal restraint vs. expression

bite one's tonguespeak one's mind

State opinions openly

speak freely · speak up · let it out · sound off · speak out

discretion vs. bluntness

bite one's tonguetell it like it is

Speak with complete candor

not mince words · call a spade a spade · lay it on the line · shoot from the hip · pull no punches

conflict avoidance vs. confrontation

bite one's tongueconfront

Face squarely, address directly

speak truth to power · give someone a piece of one's mind · have it out · lash out · let loose

Family

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Familiarity
Top 50,000
Profile
Known to kids · Used worldwide · Timeless · Everyday, not technical · Rated G