be the bigger man
Take the high
To be the bigger man is to respond to conflict or provocation with restraint and maturity rather than retaliation.
The phrase implies rising above petty disputes by refusing to escalate: Just let it go and be the bigger man.
It suggests emotional control and moral high ground, though it can also be used sarcastically or to pressure someone into backing down.
Despite the gendered phrasing, it applies broadly: She decided to be the bigger man and apologize first.
- magnanimityGenerous, noble spirit
- conciliationResolving disputes through dialogue
- turn the other cheekRefuse to retaliate
- forgivenessReleasing resentment toward offenders
- graciousnessCourteous, kind demeanor
patience · bite your tongue · selflessness · maturity · compromise · let it go · water under the bridge · de-escalation · cool your jets · composure · fortitude · rise above · temperance · swallow your pride · generosity · honor · resilience · understanding
be the bigger manretaliate
Respond to injury alike
get even · take revenge · hold a grudge · take the bait · hit back
be the bigger mansweat the small stuff
Worry about trivial matters
double down · escalate · pick a fight · fan the flames · throw a tantrum