back-handed compliment

Veiled verbal jab

A back-handed compliment is a remark that sounds like praise but contains an insult or criticism: That's pretty good for someone your age, You're so brave to wear that.

The compliment arrives with the back of the hand rather than the palm—a slap disguised as a pat.

Also spelled backhanded compliment.

Related

backhanded remark · passive-aggression · veiled · negging · sarcasm · insinuation · irony · praise · manipulation · disguised · ambiguity · underhanded · confusion · power dynamics · embarrassment · social etiquette · euphemism · double entendre

Opposites
sincerity of praise

back-handed complimentglowing tribute

rave review · high praise · accolade · kudos · flattery

emotional impact on recipient

back-handed complimentaffirmation

Positive statement of truth

validation · ego boost

directness of communication

back-handed complimentstraight talk

Honest, direct communication

unvarnished truth

Family

backed, backing, backward, backwards, backwardness, handed, handing, handily, handedness

Familiarity
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Used worldwide · Timeless · Abstract · Negative · Everyday, not technical · Rated G