asking for it
Begging for consequences
Asking for it means behaving in a way that invites negative consequences—used when someone's actions seem to court disaster or retaliation: He insulted the bouncer; he was asking for it.
The phrase carries a victim-blaming connotation, particularly offensive when applied to victims of sexual assault, implying their behavior or clothing invited the attack.
- double standardsJudging others differently than yourself
- boys will be boysSaying that excuses mischief
- rape cultureAttitudes normalizing sexual violence
- disapprovalUnfavorable opinion expressed
- purity cultureIdeology emphasizing virginity before marriage
victim blaming · rape · sexuality · judgment · blame · shame · provocation · misogynist · asked · slut-shaming · sexism · miniskirt · consent · recklessness · chauvinism · negligence · sexual violence · irresponsibility
asking for itinnocent
Free from moral wrong
blameless · faultless · guiltless · undeserving · above reproach
asking for itplaying it safe
Avoiding unnecessary risk
cautious · prudent · careful · risk-averse · circumspect