tender mercies

Soft, compassionate care

Tender mercies is almost always ironic, referring to treatment that is anything but merciful or gentle.

To leave someone to another's tender mercies is to abandon them to harsh, unsympathetic handling: She left the new intern to the tender mercies of the department head.

The phrase originates in scripture, where it was sincere; modern usage inverts it.

Related

compassion · grace · soft touch · sheltering · safe haven · empathy · prayer · still small voice · kindness · gentleness · psalms · open arms · rescuing · guardian angel · covenant · protecting · blessing · charity

Opposites
literal compassion vs. cruelty

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Deliberate harm-causing disposition

brutality · mercilessness · ruthlessness · callousness · pitilessness

IRONIC USAGE (harshness) VS. GENUINE KINDNESS

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Competent, trustworthy care

nurturing · protective custody · good graces · warm reception · sanctuary

rhetorical register

tender merciesbrutal honesty

Unsparing directness in speech

calling a spade a spade · straight talk · unvarnished truth

Family

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Used worldwide · Timeless · Abstract · Positive · Everyday, not technical · Rated G